Grief, Healing and a Hope for the Future.

The month of December is filled with over packed malls, toy commercials bombarding the air waves, family gatherings and a sense of excitement for most as the 25th day of December approaches but for one family in Port Huron Michigan, they are standing together attempting to make sense of a horrible tragedy that ruthlessly ripped a loved family member away from them.

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“We were standing down by the river, she was wearing a long pink skirt on it and the wind blowing in her hair. It was then I knew I had found the one.”- Matt Gratton

Matt Gratton, does not even know where to begin. Never once did he imagine that he would planning a funeral for the love of his life, the mother of their beautiful daughter and without his family’s help he would feel even more lost.. if that’s even possible.

December 3rd, 2015- his young fiancee Becca Hardy was mauled to death by two dogs a few houses down from her home.

PORT HURON, Mich. (WJBK) – A 22-year-old woman has died after she was attacked by two dogs in Port Huron on Thursday.” (WJBK)

Becca, according to her loving fiancé and her family was an amazing young woman and a loving mother to the couples 18th month old daughter, Molly and her family can’t help but think of those happy memories. Her Aunt Shell, grief stricken shares, “Becca was an amazing mother, she would take Molly everywhere with her. The park, the beach and visiting family.” Fiancé Matt Gratton shares, “We would play peek a boo with our daughter and regularly sit in the dining room and play catch with the beach ball.”

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The first time I ever met Becca was one night at my dads.” Matt remembers fondly, his grief apparent as he struggles a bit.   “Her Mom and my Dad are friends. She was younger, only 17yrs old at the time and I had just stopped at my dads to hang out for a bit and she fell asleep in a chair. I set up a bed for her tucked her in and went home like a proper gentleman. It wasn’t that big of a deal to me its just the person I am”.

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Matt pauses for a moment, “We survived everything designed to tear relationships apart and only came out closer. Our relationship had its problems but all do.  True love is sticking together through thick and thin and that’s exactly what we did. We had actually started trying for our second child recently because our daughter is growing up to quick for our liking.”

Guilt, agony, shock and anger came over the father and Fiancé as he waited for his soon to be wife to arrive at the hospital, beating the ambulance there.
My first thought was who is going to teach our daughter all the things a mommy is supposed to teach her? I immediately blamed myself for not being there to protect her and was flooded with a million what ifs…things I could or should have done differently. I just basically wanted to go back in time and change it but I cant.”

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Amazing enough, Matt or other family members do not blame the breed (s) of dogs responsible for the attack.
One thing I definitely want to say is I feel these people are so set on hating these animals that they’re losing sight of the actual tragedy that occurred. All the comments on the local news page sights are people fighting about how I should hate all these dogs for the deeds of a few not one (other than supporters like yourself) has even offered their condolences. They’ve lost sight of the bigger picture. My daughter has to grow up without a mother now. I lost the girl I was gonna marry and all they think about is spewing their hatred for the breed.”

By no means does he or other family members  feel that the owner should  get off the hook for this tragedy either.
” Yes I feel the owners should be charged there is a difference in training your dog to protect without doing bodily harm”,  Michelle (Aunt Shell)  explains and Matt agrees, “I’m angry about it. I feel if they were gonna teach a dog to protect they should have done more to keep something like this from happening.”

Matt doesn’t know what the future holds because for the moment,  their family is still in shock at the tragic event that snuffed out such a bright and warm light in their lives. Sadly, with the media exposure, it has caught the attention of Colleen Lynn, founder of Dogsbite.org and her fellow group members who have started their ruthless verbal attack on the family, even to the point of accusing Matt of making up the tragedy.

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Even Colleen Lynn, founder of Dogsbite.org labeling the grieving man a “Super Nutter” because he refuses to blame the multiple breeds that get labeled pit bull.

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The grieving family of Becca are shocked by the hateful messages and comments. Michelle (Aunt Shell) shares, “My niece is asking for everyone to please stop being so nasty about my nieces death. She has three young sisters and a daughter that do not deserve to see rude mean marks about Becca”.

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“If I could tell her one thing, I would tell her I’m sorry for not being there to protect her when she needed me I’d tell her if i could go back I would have never let her leave and would trade her places if I could. I’d tell her things will never be the same without her and I value every moment I did have with her now more than ever.”

Funeral arrangements are still being set up and the family has a gofundme set up to help with costs.

29 thoughts on “Grief, Healing and a Hope for the Future.

  1. My condolences to this woman’s family and especially to her courageous fiancé for not taking the “low ignorant road” of breed blaming, he seems to have a good head on his shoulders. He knows that this didn’t happen because of a certain breed or type of dog.

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  2. Perfect example of the “selective sympathy” for which the breed discriminatory law pushers are known. If you are a victim of a dog attack and your response isnt immediately to pick up a torch and pitchfork to join their mob – before your loved one is even buried no less – you are a target. These people have the social skills of hyenas.

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  3. This young mother that lost her life for a senceless reason her loving fiance struggling with everything being persecuted for having a level head on his shoulder s, the person or persons making all these nasty rude evil remarks are the actual ignorant ones the ones no heart no soul… Rebecca Lillian. Kay Hardy had a life was a beautiful person had a sweet daughter and loving fiance.. This family is struggling with an unexpected and horrific tragic death .. Any medium to large breed dog can do that major damage.. And to the moron that said a 25 lb dog could not be that mean and vicious you are out of your rock picking mind …Personal knowledge and experience not death causing but vicious… You all lost site of the actual issue…A young life was lost and a family is grieving… Beccas Aunt Michelle ( She’ll) is a very close friend of mine and has suffered tremendously and you people are just making it worse by all the rude ignorant comments..It is obvious that you have no manors nor a heart.. Especially the one who made the comment that baby would be next because Matt would not join your ignorant cause ..Learn some manors do some sohl searching and get a heart…

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    1. Linda, so sorry for your loss, and your friends loss…this is a tragedy, and the screenshots above, are from the Dogsbite dot org page, and The Pit Bull Propganda Machine Revealed, public group page. And you are right, these people are heartless, and soulless. That is what this article is trying to get across to the public. The person who runs this site, wants to show the world that they never trust Colleen Lynn, the founder of Dogsbite dot org, or Jeff Borchardt, the founder of Daxton’s Friends. They are nothing but a scam. They care nothing about those attacked by a dog. Heck, there are a lot in that group, that owned the dogs that killed their own children, and they never faced any charges, for their responsibility in the death of their family members. Just an fyi…

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    2. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1310813/Toddler-needed-200-stitches-attack-grandparents-timid-collie.html

      Cant figure out how to link it but, that was done by a collie, a dog that ranges from 20-35 pounds…so…a 25 pound dog cant do serious damage? What about the little boy who attends my Puppy days on my farm? he lost his left eye and his right ear to a 12 pound Chihuahua. Or the little Japanese boy from four years ago, killed when his grandmother’s Chinese Crested grabbed hold of his throat and tore out his carotid artery? You know how big a Chinese crested it was? it weighed in at a whopping 8 lbs (rough estimate, the original weight was in Kilograms)

      ANY dog can do serious and even fatal damage. I have rescued dogs of a wide variety of size and breeds, the ones I had the most trouble with were Dachshund and Chihuahuas, and ive rescued bait dogs, fighters, and even ‘target’ dogs, that are used to train some hunting dogs to go after coyotes and wolves.

      Worst dog bite I have personally received? 276 stitches, 69 staples and a leg in cast because I was attacked on a stair case. By a 13 pound mini poodle. My leg broke in the fall, but the staples and stitches were from the dog ripping into me. When I arrived at the ER, they thought I had stuck my arm into a wood chipper or a something. When th nurse heard from my aunt (the owner of the poodle) what had actually she happened, she refused to believe that such a small dog could do such damage.

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  4. WOW dogs.bite dot org again showing their victim advocacy !.. So because he did not join their club to kill all pit type dogs.. and spread the evil of these land sharks they accuse him of lying and making this up OMG… they vilify him!!! disgusting,, evil, rabid, disgraceful wastes of oxygen taking morons.. I have never read anything so disgusting from this hate group.. I cant wait for their own words to come back and DESTROY them because it will.. it is only a matter of time…

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  5. I wanted to leave my condolenceses and words that have helped me through my losses: everytime you think of the dead, the dead can hear your thoughts. Whenever you want to talk to your fiance, talk and she’ll know that you love her. And always tell your daughter stories of her mother so she never forgets, then she’ll have two people talking to her. It’s my personal belief and mantra, not everyone agrees, but it is very comforting to think that the ones we lost still hear our thoughts and feel our love.

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  6. I’m truly sorry for this young man’s loss. I can’t imagine what they’re going through. May God give her family, friends and loved ones strength while they mourn the loss of a beautiful young woman and that they remember her for who she was, the wonderful memories they made and cherish those moments forever. Remember her for who she was and not the tragic way she left ❤

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  7. I am so sorry for your loss. Matt should not be getting attacked for having a level head about it all. It’s not the breed, it’s the owners who raised them. Period. RIP Becca. So sorry again.

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